I've been inspired! Finally! I was almost thinking of doing away with this blog. Thank God for today's TyraShow; that's my show! However, before I go off on a tangent of how much I love that show I'mma get into what I wanna talk about before I lose the fire.
So the topic for the bulk of the episode was about a gay 16 yr old who had an 'exorcism' done on him, which he says rid him of his homosexual 'demons'. They had the minister couple who did the exorcism (these ignorant fools call it 'the casting out of unclean spirirts') and a woman from a gay/lesbian support group called TrueColors which the dude reached out to before the church (or should I say small church cause lord knows the Catholic church ain't dumb enough to say HALF the shit they say...well not blatantly anyway). Eventually it sparked an argument between the counselor from TrueColors and the husband of the minister couple. That nigga (that's right the minister couple were black SHAMEFUL) was sayin' so much dumb shit I couldn't even get mad. It was that ridiculous. However, despite all that, what hit me is that Tyra asked the 16 yr old (his name's Jeffrey) if he was attracted to girls. What did Jeffrey say? "Uh..yea". SMH He said that while in the same breath saying he still has thoughts about men. Seriously? I felt so bad for this boy cause it's so obvious he was gay; I wouldn't be surprised if he tried to harm himself honestly.
What I always knew but finally have the concrete to back it up, is that in terms of sexual orientation you are who you are. You can change your behavior (meaning you can act gay/straight) but your orientation remains the same; it's who you are. The APA (American Psychology Association probably) came out with a study proving that and even went so far as to say, any attempt to change your orientation can actually cause you serious harm. I didn't even need this study to know all that but it's always nice to have shit to back it up.
This TyraShow episode aside, I am okay with homosexuals. Live and let live, do you, it's your life. I really don't have a problem with these people because that's what they are...people. It's like so many people forget that, which is why they feel the need to commit all these hate crimes against them. Forgetting that they're human beings. I don't care what the bible says because you can debate about the bible and the church's stance on homosexuality till dawn. The point I'm trying to make is that these people are constantly under fire for being who they are; hence why they are saying gay is the new black. I actually love gay men and I'm indifferent to gay women.
What kills me is that there are people who use being gay or bisexual as an accessory. Like it's "trendy" to be gay/bisexual. That's as annoying as those suburban white kids who listen to a couple Jay-Z, 50 Cent records and think they black, using the n word all outta turn and shit. I don't see dudes doing this for obvious reasons (gonna get back to this), but girls do it like it's the new 'thing' to do. Like them stupid bitches who kiss girls in bars for attention or to appear sexy to dudes. Or those bitches who think cause they're bisexual/lesbian that, that makes them cool or something. I have nothing wrong with those who are truly bisexual/lesbian. It's the one who rep that shit like a fresh pair of nikes. All up on twitter in their bio talkin about "I'M A LESBIAN SO HOLLA LADIES!" or something to that affect. Really? That is fucking irritating as when girls throw the pussy at a dude and get mad when he smashes saying 'he only wants me for sex'. Ugh, this is NOT what's hot in the streets cause at the end of the day...you look like a fuckin tag-a-long and an attention whore.
On the flipside, you have these homophobic dudes saying 'No Homo' after every sentence. Sometimes it's funny but most times it's completely unnecessary. WHY? That's the question I ask because let's be clear on something. If you not gay, why you so worried about other people thinking you gay? You a downlow nigga? You got latent homosexual tendencies? Or are you just 'curious'? Either way saying 'no homo' doesn't help matters. Despite anything that Cam'ron, Lil Wayne or whoever else is saying it nowadays will depict, saying 'no homo' after a "suspect" sentence does not make you automatically straight. You cannot say "Yo that dude got a nice ass, no homo" and expect me to not think you might be gay or at least curious. Let me be clear on something. I have absolutely no problem with gay men, so if you gay admit that shit. My problem is with these niggas saying 'no homo' to hide their gay tendencies, laying up in bed with women and sticking yo dick into another man's ass, while bringing home God knows what to yo girl/wifey. If you not gay then why the fuck can't you be secure in your manhood and say what you gotta say? If you know you not gay then what the fuck is the problem? I know for some of you it's just habit, but I'm talking about the dudes who say that shit so much you'd think they think it'll make their teeth white. Stop it! Stop it now! The more you say 'no homo' the more you will get that raised eyebrow of suspicion!
Switching gears now, if I were to have a child and have them come to me admitting that they're gay, I'd be upset. Not because oh I have such a problem with gay people, but because of all the hell they're sure to face in this world. Nobody wants to see their child go through that bullshit. It'll kill me if I see my nephew go through that shit because he's like my son (I have no kids though THANK GOD). I'll be honest though, my child or nephew being gay is something I would definitely need some time to adjust to, but that's cause my reality is a heterosexual one. Anything different, especially brought into my world by a close family member, will seem foreign and strange. Nevertheless, I can coexist with gay men and women just fine.
I will say though that I understand gay men but lesbians...I'm at a loss lol. I can't be no lesbian, I think I might kill her. Besides the fact that physically, women don't do it for me (I look down or in the mirror and BAM same shit), they sometimes get on my last nerves. All the mood swings and bullshit that come with females is irritating. I understand it because I'm a female so I may have an upperhand on the average male, but that don't make it any less frustrating. Like women who expect their men to be mind readers, the mixed signals, the moods (i.e. periods). Not saying that men are picnics but I think it would just be too much for me to be a lesbian. I think I may become a murderer. Just choke her one day like Wayne Brady: "Does Wayne Brady have to choke a bitch?" lmao. Nah fo real though, I don't have it in me. I just don't. What proved this to me the other day is that these two dudes I know, they were having a conversation amongst themselves about these chicks they know that they'd smash. I wasn't the least bit interested. I even said I wish I was a lesbian because then it would be vaguely intriguing.
To close, I think it's terrible the way gay people are treated (especially in the Caribbean, i.e. Jamaica? Ya'll have NO idea, they're actually killed for that by police no less...go listen to Buju Banton 'Boom Bye Bye' to get a better idea) and that this boy who appeared on the TyraShow is in pain. He went through an exorcism which entailed him being stomped on and beat upon by a bible, throwing up, etc, all because he thinks he's going to hell for being who he is. I just hope Jeffrey can learn to accept himself one day and not kill himself like a lot of gay, scared, confused teens do.
P.S. That Lil Wayne and Birdman pic up above is still funny as shit to this day. Guess where I found it? On a gay/lesbian blog website! HA! That's it for now. Deuces!
Sha
